By Andi Anderson
As children leave home for college, military service, or work, parents often enter a new life stage known as the “empty nest.” This transition can bring mixed emotions, ranging from pride to sadness, but it also opens the door to personal growth and renewal.
Barbara Dunn Swanson, a health and human sciences educator with Iowa State University Extension and Outreach, encourages parents to approach this stage with thoughtful planning and positivity. “Parenthood is a lifelong journey of adjustments,” Swanson said. “It’s natural to feel a mix of emotions — pride, sadness, excitement, and uncertainty.”
When children move out, the parenting role shifts. Some parents may feel a sense of loss in the quietness of their home, while others may welcome the extra time and freedom. Most will feel both.
Swanson offers practical tips for navigating the change:
- Acknowledge the change. Recognize how the family dynamic and parent-child relationship are shifting.
- Rekindle your relationship. Couples can reconnect and explore shared interests with fewer parenting duties.
- Focus on self-care. Eating well, exercising, and getting rest supports mental and physical health.
- Explore hobbies. This is a good time to revisit passions or start new ones.
- Talk to friends. Sharing feelings with trusted friends can help ease emotional transitions.
- Celebrate the milestone. Be proud of guiding your child into adulthood.
While many enjoy this new phase, others may struggle with loneliness or emotional stress. Swanson reminds parents that seeking help is important. “We go to the doctor when we’re unwell. We should treat emotional health the same way.”
Support is available. The Iowa Concern Hotline (800-447-1985) offers help and referrals, and the website includes a live chat to connect with trained counselors.
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